Co-Sleeping/Bed-Sharing
What Parents Need To Know
Although not a common practise in North American society, co-sleeping and/or bed-sharing is a typical and often expected way for new moms to bond and nurture their infants.
Risks associated with Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (aka SIDS) have led to a general belief that allowing an infant to share the bed with the mother is dangerous, but studies have shown that with the proper guidelines in place, this component of attachment parenting actually increases the bond between the mother/child, encourages longer breastfeeding and contributes to higher self-esteem in children later in life.
The choice is always yours to make – should you choose to share your bed with your infant, there are a few things you should take into consideration:
- Infants should sleep next to their mothers only, between her and a guard to the side of the bed. Never allow an infant to sleep between parents.
- If the parent is under the influence of drugs, alcohol or otherwise impaired, it is not wise to share the bed with an infant as this may affect your ability to judge where the infant is in relation to you.
- Be sure that the infant is on a flat surface, away from any cracks, gaps or objects that could smother them. This includes heavy covers such as comforters or duvets, pillows and the space between a headboard and the mattress.
- A basket or bassinet that is within arms reach of the bed may be a better solution than allowing a infant to sleep next to you.
- If you feel uncomfortable or stressed about having an infant in your bed, listen to your intuition.
The proximity of a mother to her child may help the infants immature nervous system self-regulate during sleep. The infant will adjust to the mothers breathing patterns and heart rate, and enjoy a sense of comfort and knowledge that they are not alone. The mother will enjoy an increased sensitivity to her infants presence, and become more attuned to her child in both needs and routines. If there is a breastfeeding relationship, evidence shows that co-sleeping babies will breastfeed twice as long as babies who do not co-sleep.
The choice to co-sleep and/or share your bed with your infant can be fuelled by many scenarios, including:
· A willingness to accept the child’s need for the parent both day and night, and the parent’s need for rest in order to support the child.
· An infant who demands constant attention and love, and dislikes not being close to a family member (ie: being held, soothed, fed or rocked).
Millions of parents sleep safely with their children every year. In Asia, where bed-sharing is a cultural norm in the first years of life, the parental population enjoys the lowest rate of SIDS worldwide. There is no evidence to suggest that bed-sharing, under the proper methods and indications, is any more dangerous than putting an infant to sleep in a crib or bassinet/cradle.
There is also a fear that co-sleeping will undermine efforts to encourage early independence. For many families, the choice between comforting a distressed newborn through closeness and familiarity and teaching an infant to fall asleep on their own is not even an option, especially in shared households with other young children, or even other sleeping adults. Bed-sharing has not been shown to increase dependency on the parent – and has even been proven to foster higher self-esteem in children later in life. This can be attributed to the comfort experienced by a child who knows that they are not alone and will be tended to promptly.
An important note concerning SIDS:
It is important to recognize that Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is not the same as asphyxiation from a blocked airway. There is a tendency to attach a diagnosis of suffocation or asphyxia to these cases, however there may be no evidence to confirm that the above did in fact occur. SIDS refers to an infant who suddenly stops breathing for no known reason – and in a co-sleeping relationship, the mother is typically close enough to the infant to become aware of the issue and encourage breathing faster than in a situation where the infant is on the opposite side of the room or in another room altogether. Only 18% of SIDS cases in Quebec between 1991-2000 were found to have been in unsafe sleeping conditions, with asphyxia or suffocation as the cause.
REMEMBER:
· FLAT surfaces with no pillows, gaps or heavy coverings.
· BACK to sleep, in any situation. Infants should always be placed on their backs to sleep initially (they may roll or move during the sleep session).
· MOMS only for bed-sharing. Only mom has the intuition and awareness of baby’s location.
· SOBER sleeping only – never sleep with an infant if you are impaired by any method.